TOHOSHINKI talked about the style of masculinity/manliness
Q. What part of your partner do you think, "he is so masculine/manly and cool."?
CM: Everything about Yunho is so cool. I can totally count on him/he is totally reliable.
YH: Speaking of which, Changmin is a lot more relaxed as a man in these days. When he was a teenager, he was so harsh on himself and he took everything deep in his heart.. but lately, he has matured to be able to show the weak side of him in a natural fashion.
CM: Everyone has a weakness and wants to hide it from others. But if one can overcome the feeling/shyness/fear and reveal the weakness, I think he stands tall and is very cool. He is not afraid of anything and honest to himself for everything. I look up to a man like that.
It is far more important to act than just to say. The attitude of a man who does his best is masculine/mannish.
YH: I think an honest man is very cool, right? I think Changmin has grown up to be such a man. Lately, whatever the issue arises, he will not hide himself struggling and he can talk about himself like that jokingly. You (CM) are strong, aren't you?
Q. Well then, what kind of manliness/masculinity does Yunho-san look up to?
YH: "Actions speak louder than words.” Once a man says something, he keeps trying his best to achieve his goal/accomplish the task.. I feel a strong sense of manliness/masculinity to such an attitude/behavior.
CM: Yunho has something like that. Not to mention for his own, but also when he makes a promise to others, he will never break the promise. He has been like that since he was young. I have kept admiring him for that aspect of him for a long time.
YH: But in my teenage, I thought that once I said something, I had to achieve the task/goal with 200% effort. In these days, rather than achieving the goal/accomplishing the task, I think, to keep trying my best to reach there is my responsibility to my own words. In addition, instead of working my butt off all the time, I figure when to work in full gear and when to work on my own pace.. I think it is more mature as a man to figure out when to turn on and off the switch. Having said that, I still keep telling myself in my heart "In order to have a great dream/make a great dream come true, I am doing my best." These are magic words for myself.
Q. Let's say, your sister or your close female friend has brought her boyfriend to you.. what feature of the guy do you check to make sure that he is a good man?
CM: I will check first how much he really loves my female friend. Then I will check how much he cares about his girlfriend, family and work.. what is really important for him in his life, and how he protects/secure such things.
YH: I check whether the guy is tight-lipped/trustworthy. And I also check whether he likes to make excuses. Once I evaluated these two factors, I can tell easily whether he is good or bad.
Q. Do you think the manliness that women think of and the manliness that men in the same sex want are different?
YH: Sure, completely different.
CM: I agree. The man in my mind who has the manliness/masculinity that a man wish to have is Yunho. By looking at him here, right next to him, he really is manly. He really is a handsome/cool man.
YH: Stop it (laugh) You are telling me a lot of nice things but does it mean that I am not attractive to a woman?
CM: No, No, I do not mean that (laugh). I am sure you are attractive to a woman. But do not you think that men and women have the completely different sense of values?
YH: Yes, I suppose so. Men have a strong sense of responsibility and women are very affectionate.
And I think, men can understand each other so well .. sense of duty/morality/justice and friendship, something like that.. But if we face women with that attitude, it probably will not work well. Its difficult.
CM: Women tend to be more emotion driven but they also are practical. I am not trying to say which is better.
YH: I totally understand what you are trying to say, because I have a sister too (laugh).
CM: Having said that.. I wish to be humble to other person which ever sex the person is. Instead of venting my frustration, I respect the existence of the other person and cherish/look after the person. I love to be a man like that.
YH: What do you mean?
CM: For example, when you live with someone, then there will be an issue that bothers you, right? like after the person uses something but he/she does not return the stuff back to the place where it should be.. something like that.. I know it is a bit picky.
YH: I am really sorry (laugh).
I wish to be a man who can respect the other and cherish/look after the person.. I wish to be a man who can do that.
CM: No, No, I am not talking about Yunho (laugh). Anyways, I think such a little thing is just one of the rules in daily life so we should keep the rule. That is it. But if someone forces someone to change his/her personality or behavior for one's sake, I think it is wrong. Being pushy/aggressive is not belong to manliness/masculinity.
I believe a lot of married couple break up because of that..
YH: My, my, it is getting difficult subject to discuss (laugh).
CM: Yes, it is difficult! If I could understand the difference between "a man who women like" and "a man whom men look up to", I have more experiences in love relationship (laugh).
TOHOSHINKI talked about the style of masculinity/manliness
Changmin on Yunho
He is a man who keeps promises to himself and keeps running.
He(YH) has not changed at all in a good sense since he was a teenager. Once he makes promises, he will keep them not matter what happens. He has a very strong sense of believe in such aspect as a man. And I feel the strength of him as a man to protect someone including me, family, friends, and staffs. Further, it is not specific.. like "He protected/stood by me back then." rather.. he protects me just by being with me.. in such subtle way.. Whether we are on stage or when I am exhausted.. if he stays right beside me, I can count on him/rely on him. For me, Yunho is like a "shadow" that always accompanies me. I believe, most likely, Yunho has the similar thought/feeling as mine.
Yunho on Changmin
He(CM) is cool to be strict to/harsh on himself.
I think he really is a man .. because he has a dream to achieve a lit of things as an artist as well as he has a clear mind about how to live as a human being. It is actually quite difficult to open up a new path of life. His attitude where he is trying his best not to have any regret is very cool/attractive.
Since we lived together for more than 10 years, I believe that I knew the majority of his personality.. but we have known each other too long.. so perhaps other people may think some feature as Changmin's weakness, I take it as "Changmin's style/way" (laugh). Therefore, there is absolutely nothing in him that I want him to change/work on. I am so thrilled to watch him maturing.. and how he would become a great man in the future.
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